Monday, May 5, 2014

Religion and the Oppression of Women


I’m sure we could name countless ways religion oppresses women. Women are not allowed to become priests. Women have to wear the burqa. Women cannot get abortions because religion calls them “murder.” Overall, women seem to be inferior human beings in the eyes of God, and this gives men the excuse to rape women, beat their wives, and pay their female employees a lesser rate than men. In the recent book I read, Homeless Bird—Koly underwent a lot of the suffering she did because she was a woman. Hari only married her because of her dowry, and the dowry basically conveys the message, “That’s how much it costs to get rid of you.” Women don’t have any means of supporting themselves in India, so when Koly’s Sass left her after her Sassur died, she was left homeless and had to go to a home for widows. Salvation only came for her when a man offered to marry her again.

Yes, that is all in the holy books and the traditions, but can we blame religion entirely for the oppression of women? I don’t think so. After all, we don’t listen to everything the holy books say. For example, there are seven examples of suicide in the Bible that go unpunished, but we still insist that suicide is wrong. We pick and choose what we like and what we believe to be moral from those holy books. Men happened to think that the oppression of women was moral and enforced it ever since.

Although religion may seem to have a lot to say about what women can and cannot do, it is primarily people that establish these rules and traditions. Religion can be a force for good and equality or a force for evil and inequality. Yes, people murder others in the name of religion, but there are also nuns that go where no other people have dared to go before just to help people and spread the word of God. There are countless other examples where religion is a tool to do both good and bad things.

Things that include the oppression of women. Religion is not entirely to blame as at the end of the day, it is all just about community and a belief in a higher power(s). I believe people are to blame for inequality and oppression.

Do you agree with me when I say this? What is your own perspective on religion and the oppression of women or any minority group?


Sunday, May 4, 2014

Book Review: Homeless Bird by Gloria Whelan



This book is about Koly, who is a thirteen-year-old girl who lives in India, and her parents have arranged a marriage for her because they can no longer afford to feed her. She is married off to a sickly boy named Hari, and he only married her for her dowry, which would allow his family to take him to the Holy Ganges river, which Hari’s parents hoped would heal Hari. Hari dies after going to the Ganges, and Koly is stuck with her Sass (mother-in-law) who is always criticizing her and her kindly but submissive Sassur (father-in-law). She can’t go back to her family because it would bring dishonor to them. Later, her Sassur dies and her Sass abandons her, so she is left homeless. She has to go to a home for widows until she is saved from her plight.

I don’t usually read multicultural YA literature, but I should, so reading this was good for me as it allowed me to deviate from what I normally read. I also happened to really enjoy this book. I especially liked the character of Koly, who was an intelligent, strong, curious, and resilient young woman. Her perspective on her world was interesting and believable for me.

Koly and most of the characters in this book practice the Hindu religion, and I don’t know a lot about the Hindu religion, so reading about it was interesting. However, Homeless Bird differs from The Chosen because the terminology isn’t that heavy, and there’s not too much focus on religious themes. The book focused more on how Koly deals with oppression and death in her life.

The religious themes popped up when Koly described the different traditions of the Hindu religion and how religion plays a role in her oppression. The Hindu religion is very much connected to Indian culture in this book, so the religious and cultural themes were hard to separate from each other. One could even argue that they’re impossible to separate because culture and religion are always interconnected.


This book would be great for teachers to use in the classroom. Children would learn about Indian culture and what it’s like for women in different parts of the world. Girls can probably really identify and like Koly’s personality. It’s also a National Book Award-winning novel and has lots of symbolism. The only thing that bugged me about the book was how a handsome male saved the day, but I accepted it because Koly thought it through and decided that she wanted to be with the man.

Teens and Suicide (With Some Religious Commentary)

WARNING: Contains spoilers, so if you haven’t read the book, please read it before reading this post.

Before I start writing the actual post, I just want to warn readers that this is a topic very close to my heart, and I have had some recent experiences related to suicide. I will provide resources/facts, but a lot of this post will be focused on my personal experiences. You don’t have to agree with the things I say.

In Looking For Alaska by John Green, Alaska commits suicide—that’s what Pudge and his friends realize at the end of the book. Alaska was having some personal issues and decided that the way out of the labyrinth of suffering is “straight and fast.” To kill herself.

Suicide is the third-leading cause of death in people between the ages of 15 to 24. Mental health issues are the number one risk factor, and 95% of the people who die by suicide have mental health issues. About one in five teenagers consider suicide annually in the United States, and about 8% of teenagers attempted suicide in 2003. Click the hyperlink provided above to see possible warning signs. Suicide rates differ between boys and girls. Girls attempt suicide twice as often as boys, but they use less lethal methods. Boys die by suicide about four times as often as girls do.

If you are a parent or a teacher, realize that most teens who commit suicide give some sort of warning sign beforehand, so it’s important to listen and look for these warning signs. Often, parents assume that the teen is just talking about death, “to get attention,” but this isn’t the case—teenagers don’t want to be sent to the shrink or go to the ER. It’s crucial that parents LISTEN.

Now, here is where you might disagree with me, but if a teen confides that they are having suicidal thoughts, maybe it’s not necessary to freak out and put them on antidepressants right away. I had suicidal thoughts as a teen, and once in a while, I still do think about suicide. Would I ever consider suicide though? Of course not. We all have dark thoughts, and we need to work through them. I would actually go so far as to say that fantasizing about suicide is actually healthy. Our society has stigmatized people with mental health issues and they think that suicidal thoughts are a product of depression, bipolar, substance abuse, etc. I think we all think about suicide, but we just don’t want to admit it. Suicide is a “taboo” topic in many American households and schools, but a more relaxed environment would allow teens to discuss their feelings about suicide with adult role models. Of course, you shouldn’t trivialize suicidal thoughts—take them seriously, but don’t overreact.

Personal Story:

Now, I’ll tell you about a recent experience I had with suicide. You can move on to the “Religious Views on Suicide” section if you are sensitive to these kinds of stories.

Recently, someone at my university decided to take his own life, and his name was Gianni “Gio” Manganelli. Here is the link to a memorial fund in his name: https://www.everribbon.com/ribbon/view/16871.

He was the first person I met this year at Gallaudet. I remember dragging my oversized suitcase to my dorm and just before I reached the doors of the building, a guy stopped me and said, “What is your name?” He was an unusual character—he was wearing a fedora that clashed with his outfit and one arm was in a sling.

There was something charming about this guy though, and his eyes glittered with this childlike innocence that I have never seen in someone his age. I never forgot them. “My name is Paige. What’s yours?”

He then spelled his name, and I misunderstood him—I thought he said his name was Giovanni.

“Oh…” I nodded. “Good night!” He smiled at me as I walked towards my dorm, puzzled. At the time, I thought he was high on drugs. I didn’t understand why he would randomly introduce himself to me. I still don’t.

Ever since we met that night, he was like an unusual, friendly ghost that haunted me. I saw him everyday. I passed him on my way to class, I saw him sitting at that same place where we met, and I would see him chatting with friends in the cafeteria while I chatted with mine. “Do you know that guy?” I asked my friend, Rhiannon. “I see him every day! He stalks me!”

“Maybe you should sit down at his table and talk to him if you’re so obsessed with him! Seriously—you talk about him everyday!” She replied.

“Nah…” And I never did. I wish I did. I wrote stories about him for my creative writing class. My creative writing teacher loved the stories I wrote about Giovanni and his misadventures.

But then I stopped seeing Giovanni, and I wondered what became of him. It wasn’t long before I saw his face on a poster and I thought, Hey there’s Giovanni! His name’s Gianni? I then read what was on the poster:

“Gianni “Gio” Manganelli chose to ascend into Heaven on March 30, 2014.”

It was then that I realized that I would never see him again. He was such a stable presence in my life and now there was and still is an emptiness in my life that only Gio can fill. The question I am always asking is why? I will never know the answer though. I just know that the answer was enough for him to decide that he no longer wanted to live.

I am pissed at Gianni for deciding that. I am pissed at myself for not trying to be his friend because who knows? Maybe I could have helped him. I am pissed at his family for trying to cover up the fact that yes, he did commit suicide. I am pissed at the world right now, and I feel helpless and sad all the time. I cry a lot and because I am preoccupied, it’s affecting my performance in school. I don’t understand it because I only met him ONE TIME, but I don’t have time to work through my feelings about it because it’s final exam and project time.

My point is not to ramble about my feelings on what happened though. The message I am trying to convey is that suicide impacts people tremendously. If I only met Gianni once, I can’t imagine the pain I would feel if I was his best friend or sister. Friends of his told me that he was having some family and mental health issues, but somehow, he slipped through their fingers.

I’ll stop here, and I’ll share a link so you can educate yourselves on suicide prevention: http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/.


Jewish, Christian, and Islamic religions strictly prohibit suicide and consider it a sin. The Talmud is a bit unclear, but it is clear that in the Jewish religion, suicide is frowned upon. In Hinduism, suicide is spiritually unacceptable and you become a ghost, wandering the earth until the time when you were supposed to die had you not committed suicide. Buddhism does not condemn suicide, but states that the reasons for committing suicide are often negative and counteract the path to enlightenment. Wiccan religions don’t have a general consensus on suicide, but some view it as a violation of the sanctity of life.

I think it’s safe to say that most religions view suicide as a bad thing, and it makes sense. It’s really tough on those left behind, and they are called “suicide survivors.” How can their religion help them heal when their religion has condemned their loved one because they committed suicide?

There are actually seven accounts of suicide in the Bible (most notably, Judas) and none of those suicides were condemned. It wasn’t a sin until St. Augustine declared it to be in the fifth century. Lately though, the (Catholic) church is not condemning suicide—they have decided to take “the whole issue of suicide out of the moral realm and placed it in the medical realm, where it belongs.” They are now considering mental health issues and are reconsidering the sin of suicide. See this article for a good explanation of how Islamic, Jewish, and Christian religions today are handling suicide: http://www.pbs.org/wnet/religionandethics/2005/10/21/october-21-2005-religion-and-suicide/11870/

Sorry for the long post, but as I said before, suicide is an issue that is very important to me. 

Book Review: Looking For Alaska by John Green

I read a book by fellow Nerdfighter, John Green, and so far, it is one of my favorites out of the books I have read for the project. I also loved The Chosen, and highly recommend it.




Looking For Alaska is about famous-last-words-obsessed Miles Halter, who moves to a boarding school in Alabama. Up until he goes to the boarding school, his life has been one big non-event. He leaves his Florida home to seek a “Great Perhaps.” There, Miles is transformed into Pudge and becomes friends with the Colonel (a genius with a napoleon complex) and Alaska Young, who is funny, smart, beautiful, and self-destructive. Pudge falls in love with her and his life becomes the opposite of boring. One day though, a terrible event changes the world of Culver Creek and nothing is ever the same again.

Compared to the other books I read this semester, this book didn’t incorporate religion as much as the others, although it still plays an important role. In the book, Pudge and his friends have to take a religion class, and the class was basically a way for John Green to directly ask the big questions that were themes throughout the book. A couple of these questions are, “Is there life after death?” and “Is life just pointless suffering?” Religion tries to provide answers to these questions often.

John Green was a double major in English and Religious Studies in college, and he worked as a chaplain at a children’s hospital while attending divinity school in Chicago. It seems that Green was very comfortable with writing a book dealing with the questions listed above from a religious perspective. Here's a link to John Green's website if you want to learn more about him and his books: http://www.johngreenbooks.com.

Although I did love this book and I felt like Green handled the issues in the book with grace, it wasn’t my favorite book by him. I liked The Fault in Our Stars better. Sometimes the book can get a bit boring, Pudge was not as vibrant as other characters in Green’s books, and all of the characters seemed extremely immature. Alaska reminded me of Holden Caulfield, but she was even worse than him. I liked Holden, I didn’t like Alaska. She was an alcoholic, depressing, idiotic, and sort of a jerk. Green had to make her pretty and intelligent, so he made her an avid reader and feminist with a great body. I don’t think we were supposed to like Alaska though. She was suffering and she made a questionable decision in the book that changed the world of Culver Creek.

I always read John Green’s books as works of philosophy though, so it doesn’t really matter to me if I don’t like the characters because what I want to draw from his work is between the lines. I still highly recommend the book, and I think John Green’s writing is top-notch. I would even go so far as to say that he is one of the best writers alive today. Overall, I give the book four out of five stars.